Find your birth mother? Find your adopted child? Perhaps even, find the birth father?

The UK Government is proposing a new law about adopted children and birth parents. They will be able to trace each other. A government service is to be set up to do it.

From New rules for tracing relatives

Parents who put their children up for adoption are to get help tracing them, under plans unveiled on Thursday.

New Adoption Support Agencies would act as an intermediary service and the request to make contact, by child and parent, would become a legal right.

The government is consulting on changes to the new Adoption and Children Bill, which comes into effect next year.

At present intermediary services are available in some parts of the country but not others.

When the new Adoption and Children Bill was first introduced in 2002, it only made provision for access to information after the Bill comes into effect, which is expected to happen next summer.

It did not apply to the 875,000 adoptions that have already been made since the Adoption of Children Act 1926.

Minister for Children Margaret Hodge said: "Originally, we thought that the huge number of adoptions that have occurred since 1926 would mean the adoption agencies would be overburdened by applications from people seeking contact with former birth relatives."

Comments include

I was adopted in 1965 and strongly object to the new proposals. I have a wonderful relationship with my parents who brought me up and, whilst I bear no ill will towards those who gave me up for adoption, I do not believe they should have any right to trace me (even if actual contact could only be made with my consent).

I am adopted, and I have no wish to trace my parents. The idea of them being able to trace me is unsettling; it was their choice after all. I am not bitter but I am happy now and do not wish to disrupt my present and future with a past I have already dealt with. If

I was adopted in 1952 and was lucky enough to have been told that at an early age by my adoptive parents. I have placed my name on a register as I feel sad to think I could walk past a blood relative and never know it. I am very pleased about the intermediary concept

I have recently traced my birth mother with the full support of my adopted family. However I think we were all taken by surprise by the resulting emotions and I feel that there needs to be a very strong support system established to help people through this very emotional process and also through the following year/s.

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We're told that women are left holding the baby and men don't take responsibility, but 875,000 children have been adopted since 1926. So maybe 875,000 women didn't take responsibility. Maybe it could be argued they didn't have any choice, but adoption itself is a choice. Some managed without sex and/or without adoption. Adoption is one of the way's of getting rid of children you don't want, primarily for women. Abortion is also another way. Donor insemination or sperm banks are a way of having a baby whiteout having a man around in any form. These are all conveniences for women. There is little or no requirement to inform, let alone involve, the father. The baby's wish is not considered at all. Now some of that is changing. It's nice to see that children have rights too.

Comments

[Chuck]

I was adopted. My name on my original birth certificate was Duane Wert. I was born in 1954 and I am a male. Trying to find birthparents. Last name of mother could be Deroin, but not sure. Wanting to find both parents and any other relatives.Any help would be nice.

[Chuck]

I was adopted. My name on my original birth certificate was Duane Wert. I was born in 1954 and I am a male. Trying to find birthparents. Last name of mother could be Deroin, but not sure. Wanting to find both parents and any other relatives.Any help would be nice.born in United States

[Chuck]

I was adopted. My name on my original birth certificate was Duane Wert. I was born in 1954 and I am a male. Trying to find birthparents. Last name of mother could be Deroin, but not sure. Wanting to find both parents and any other relatives.Any help would be nice.born in United States

[debby alsip]

four children adopted out in 1979 in clermont county batavia ohio.
found jacob kuhlman need to find
dreama love alsip bd 3-15-73
davina kathleen kuhlman 4-7-76
david james kuhlman 1-16-75

[joan Gowan]

Looking for son Micheal Anthony Constable, born 16 Dec 1963. Could be using his foster mother's name Robinson. Mrs Robinson lived in Devon.

[s. darnelle]

Looking for my sisters daughter born in 1963 in Far Rockaway, new York and adopted in the Five Towns, New York. Her name at birth was Faith Eddington

[joanne bell]

looking for brother born 28 feb 1953 and was given the name andrew stuart bell at birth. born at the haven, gately, manchester. possibly gateley in nolfolk. birth mothers name joan bell, fathers name thomas bell

[Lindsey Jean Bumsted]

Hey,
I'm looking for my birth parents.
I have no clue who they are (mom won't tell)
If anyone can offer some help
I'd really appreciate it

<3 Thanks <3

[Lesley Ryder-Cameron]

Looking for my son Darren Michael Pickin adopted in 1969 by a family called Cassidy born Nov 4th 1969 in Newcastle general hospital. Possibly lived in Kenton Bar area of Newcastle.

[raymond goodchild]

i am looking for my two daughters that were adopted 18 years ogo crystal goodchild melissa goodchild

[wendy Hager]

looking for sister born in 1945or46 to phyllis Scott (Placito) 16yrs old, she should be 57-59 yrs old now, born in Massachusetts.

[Shelby]

I am looking for my half brother. He would have had the last name of Charf. Born in Neligh or Norfolk NE.

[vicky]

Hey I am looking to find my brother he was born before i was and i really wish i could meet himhis orignal name on birth certificate was peter wayne curley....if anyone has any information on him contact my e mail he was born in brantford ontario....ty very much

[Brittney]

I am looking for my twin sisters. They were born on June 26, 1986, in Bowling Green,Ohio. My mother did not name them so it is more difficult to find them, I know they are currently residing in Bowling Green. We would all really like to meet them especially our mother who wasn't even allowed to hold them when they were born. If anyone can help please get in touch with me thank you!

[laura leslie]

i am looking for my son and daughter(Robert-John Desborough Lydia suzanne Desborough.lydia's birthday is the 17 july 2000 and robbie's birthday is 24 october 2001 they are 4 years and 3 years old this year.
if anyone can help please contact as soon as possiable

[Mike Loftis]

LOOKING FOR OKLAHOMA ADOPTEES DOB:Jan.21,1947 & Oct.26,1950...Shirley Lavon Loftis born Jan.21,1947 Tahlequah,Oklahoma & Lester Neal Loftis born Oct.26,1950 Oklahoma City,Oklahoma...Parents were George W.Loftis & Flossie M.(Jones)Loftis...There were 13 children...only these 2 remain MISSIONG from the 1950's Oklahoma Adoptions.They were at Whitaker State Home in Pryor,Oklahoma in the early 1950's..ANY Information,contact: Mike Loftis 922 N.Broadway apt.F Wichita,Kansas 67214 Email: 97541@cox.net

[Mandy Field]

Half brother named Andrew Walker at birth, which was 19/01/79. Mother named Sharon. England somewhere. Please help.

[tracy pierce]

im looking for my adopted daughters brother ,i believe he is in the chicago area.Hes birth name was JASON JOSHUA RICE he was born in freeport ill,he is 21 yrs old .Please if any one nos any thing please contact me .
thank you

[Darla Harmon]

Looking for my biological daughter.Was adopted by Joy and Greg Art.

[g jarrison]

My friend had her son adopted in the UK in about 1965 she is desperate to find him now. Is there anyway she can go about it. I am being the middle man as she doesn't have a computer and has asked me to do this for her. The birth town was Lancaster, Lancashire, England, the hospital Lancaster Royal Infirmary.

[Tara]

looking for my birth mother dont know what her name is but i have two sisters named Crystal and Nicole Saxon if anyone knows those people please contact me at sexie_saxon@hotmail.com

[Rosario]

On Sept 10,1975 my sister gave birth to a boy in Lakewood New Jersey; we where young and only wanted to do the right thing, and we hope we did , that's why I'm posting this note, bouth my sister and I pray everyday that he is fine and wish just to know that, and perhaps see his picture, if he want to contact me I will let my sister who is overseas know and we'll be so happy to meet you ,please e-mail me to charovi09@yahoo.com , we love you.

[julie]

I am looking for my sons Robert 4-16-1985, Johnny 3-25-1986, Junior(Edward) 4-24-1987, Tinothy 4-17-1988. They were adopted out in Oklahoma City around 1990. My name was Julie Campbell -Wall now it is Maloney.

[Laura Calder]

I am looking for my half-brother who was up for adoption in year 1984 or 1985. His name is Anthony Kearns and he lived in Manchester. He will now be the at the age of 21. If you have any information please e-mail me as soon as possible. Thank you.

[Jane Graham]

I am looking for my son who I had adopted, I was only 16 but I would love to see him & explain why, I don't want to take him away from his life now, I just want a chance to meet him.